19: Are You A Perfectionist… Let’s Talk
Being a “perfectionist” is a lie we tell ourselves (me included).
In this episode, I unpack these thoughts and get honest with myself about what I call perfectionism.
What’s going on everybody? Welcome to another episode of the side hustle to full time web designer podcast. I’m your host, Keegan Lanier. And today we’re talking about being a perfectionist. I want you to sit back and ask yourself this question. Am I a perfectionist? and be honest with yourself, right? Take yourself through some experiences that you have things that you’ve done, things you tried to accomplish? things maybe you didn’t accomplish? Things may you maybe you put off, ask yourself in those projects. Have I ever said I was a perfectionist? I know I have. And trust me, this is a judgment free area. This is like Planet Fitness. There’s no judgment here.
But the truth of the matter is, is that being a perfectionist is kind of BS. I mean, it’s kind of BS, let’s be real with each other for a minute, right? It’s just a fallacy. You know, there are some potential positives that you can take from saying I am a perfectionist, you know, you could be someone who has strong attention to detail, I care about every single little bit of the project in web design, that’s a good thing, right? That could be a really great thing. You sweat the details. You care about the minutiae of the project, you want pixel perfect projects. Nothing wrong with that, right? unless those projects never get launched. And so some of the things I really wanted to talk about in this episode is more so to get you thinking about yourself, because in me having this conversation, it really gets me thinking about myself, and calling myself on my own Bs, and making sure that I’m real honest with me, because I have to be really honest with myself.
And so some of the negative things that come along with this, and most of them are negative, I really, I can’t think of any other positive other than you could potentially have strong attention to detail. But the first negative is, is just that perfection does not exist. It’s unattainable. And what I mean by that is, have you ever spent time I mean, a lot of time you go, let’s say you’re washing your car, you spend hours and you’re washing your car, and you’re doing all of this, you know, you’re you’re doing everything go in detail, you’re breaking out like q tips, and you’re getting into little nooks and crannies inside of your car. And then you get in, and you realize you missed a spot on the windshield.
Or you spend months and months and months building a website. And then you realize that you forgot to attach it to Google Search Console, or you didn’t do a search results page. And those are just random examples. I’m literally just coming up with these as a walk through. But what I mean by that is that you can spend a lot of time and realize that you miss something. And also, the goals and your perspectives change. So what may seem to be perfect to you one day, you go back the next day. And it’s all wrong. Because you’re seeing things from a different perspective, maybe you’ve had time to digest, you’re just looking at things a little bit differently, or something happens to you in this day.
Like, you know, some people go through life and say like, this is what I want to do. When I graduate from high school, I’m going to college. And when I go to college, I’m studying whatever. And then you get into that you go all the way into it, you go to, you know, to get your first job and you realize this is I don’t want to do this. This is terrible. This is not me. I’m not happy. I don’t want to do it. It does happen. And and I mean like your goals and your perspectives in what you want out of life will change. You know, if you if you dramatically lost someone that you love, someone who’s extremely close to you, that would change your perspective on life and what’s important. So, again, you know, perfect is never there because a perfect life is perfect, within the confines of what you’ve given it. A perfect website is perfect within the confines of what you’ve given that and those confines they can change.
Now, this is one where it really starts To get real in, it’s tough for me to even really admit or say to myself. And that’s it, it’s usually more about the fear of judgment, right, our insecurities? What are people going to say? What will people think, and the majority of us are all wired that way. We’re concerned with what other people are going to think. Because we want acceptance, we want approval, there’s very few people out there who truly have reached a point where they don’t care. A lot of people who say they don’t care are the ones who really, really care. And, you know, it’s, it’s okay to care, you know, it’s not a sign of weakness to care what other people think about you, only if it keeps you from doing things, you know, will make you happy. Depends on the motivation, right.
And so, you know, it is usually more about the fear of being judged. For me, in particular, you know, this side hustle to full time web design podcast, the name of it alone puts me in a position where I’m putting myself out there, and I have a full time job, which I love. And if any of the people who I work with my day job were to ever sit down and truly listen to the podcast, they would know that I have nothing but amazing things to say about the work we do, how proud I am to have spent 12 years building what we have, how much I love the people I work with just all of those things.
So this podcast is more about my side hustle journey, and and potentially taking it full time one day, it’s so much more about that than it is like I hate my job I want to leave. Now I do know, and I’m realistic enough to know that many people who have side hustles, the sole intent is to run away as fast as they can from their day job. And that’s why I’ve been side hustling for over six years now is because I do enjoy my day job. I love the people that I work with and what I get to do I mean, it’s it’s a cool gig. And so, you know, it’s always a lot more about either fear of judgment from insecurity. Or maybe it’s, you know, you think someone’s gonna talk smack about you or say that your work isn’t good.
And that’s another one of those things. It’s all about perspective, right? If you are willing to create the stuff, you should put it out there. And there will always be in everything you do in life, there will always be people who, who really appreciate you and like you, and there will be people who dislike you. And it could be that they catch you at a bad moment, you look at them a wrong way, and you don’t even realize it, they catch it mid glance, and it’s completely unintentional. When somebody dislikes you, there’s no way to go through life. And everyone either says, all the stuff that you’ve ever produced, all of your work is great. And you were the nicest person and every single person likes you. It’s impossible.
And so we’re in about fear of judgment is, is is a fool’s goal. And so, you know, that ties into the very last point that I have to make here is that it’s an excuse to not put yourself out there. I struggled with that for a long time for exactly what we just talked about, I have a full time job, and I don’t, I don’t want to jeopardize that. I love what I have. I love the gig, I love the work that we do, again, extremely proud of the team that we’ve built and the work that we’ve been able to do. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t have my own creative itch that I need to scratch. And that is completely fulfilled by building up a side hustle of web design. And the journey has been crazy. It’s been fun, it’s been all over the place has been up and down. And it’s wild. But that would never have happened. If I didn’t put myself out there. If I didn’t decide, I want to do this, I want to grow this, I want to build on this brand.
And that’s why, you know, I think the lies we tell ourselves, you know, are you a perfectionist? There’s no such thing. Let’s just accept that. Let’s all agree with that. And let’s come to terms with that. It is an excuse to either avoid judgment, or to not put yourself out there. It’s a way to delay the inevitable. If you’re going to come into business yourself, you’ve got to put out content you have to put out work and that work will be judged and it’s okay. You can’t be afraid of that.
And so you know, with all that said, this is really just a 10 minute talk of me talking about some of the things that I’ve had to deal with in my own head. Some of the insecurities that I’ve had about putting my work out there and hopefully it gives you the okay like the thumbs up to say, you know, it’s okay if I put my stuff out there. It’s okay that I do that video on YouTube. It’s okay if I start building up Instagram stories. People are going to hate it or love it one way or the other and that’s not in your control. Just about being you doing you creating what you want to create, be unhappy about it and letting the chips fall. Wherever they fall, you know, sometimes that’s just the way life has to go.
So I can’t tell you enough how super happy I am about the way things are going with this podcast. And if you love the stuff that I’m sharing here, the thoughts in my head about the journey, we’re going to get back into some, some really technical stuff. And I want to do some much longer episodes that dive into some some good details very, very soon. But I’m always gonna throw these in here and share the journey. So I hope if you’re if you’re really enjoying that, and there’s somebody out there who you think needs to hear the words that I’m saying, if maybe it’s a good like green light for them to do something they’ve been waiting to do, please share this episode, and share the podcast. It’s the it’s really the nicest thing you can do in support of the show. So I appreciate you. I hope that you have an incredible week, and we’ll see you in the next episode of the side hustle to full time web designer podcast. Have an awesome week.